One would have thought I’d have put a blog together a long time ago, but only now have I gotten my act together and actually started one.  So… here we go.  My self-titled blog starts NOW.

I’ve needed a venue to write freely in for awhile.  Facebook notes only go so far, and I’ll try to link my notes to this blog so you all can see posts, but I like this blog idea better.  Look for lots of sweet stuff coming your way.  I’ll be posting reviews (or links to JFH reviews), editorials, commentaries and just thoughts on life and/or God here.  I’ve already uploaded a FB note from two months ago below.

This should be fun… thanks for joining me.



(originally posted on FB on 2/13/10)

February’s identifying event Valentine’s Day is upon us tomorrow, and with my very mixed feelings on the holiday, I wanted to take the time to write down all of it. So, here we go.

I first have to mention that I am indeed a single man. I have deferred from seeking out a significant other at this time, mostly because I don’t want to subject myself to temptation and/or breaking of hearts (mine or the girl’s) at this age in my life. I’m 18 years old, and barely at marriageable age; I’m still developing as a person, and until otherwise, I do not consider myself ready to date ANYONE. This is not to say that I am against dating; indeed, at some point I will seek out my possible options through this manner (NOT by courting, but that’s another story).

St. Valentine’s Day is actually an inaccurate title for the holiday. There are really two St. Valentine martyrs in Catholic tradition, and neither of them actually did anything to especially promote the idea of “love” as to which they are attributed. Some have embellished on the story of one of these Valentines: St. Valentine would secretly marry soldiers of Roman Emperor Claudius II, and when he was found out and sentenced to death, he wrote a letter to his love, ending with “from your Valentine”. This story, though sweet and certainly plausible, just isn’t true, and to put it bluntly, Valentine’s Day was invented for marketing and commercialization. Yes, it’s a “Hallmark holiday”, and over 1 billion valentines are sent every year. And to be ultra-specific, a “holiday” is really a day of remembrance that exempts one from work, and under that definition, Valentine’s Day actually doesn’t qualify. Nonetheless, everyone calls it a holiday anyway.

But why do people hate the holiday anyway? There are a few different reasons I have observed:

  1. “I don’t like spending all the money.”
  2. “It makes me and/or others feel awkward.”
  3. “It puts unneeded pressure on me others, single or not.”
  4. “It celebrates things I don’t believe in.”
  5. “Hallmark invented it, so therefore it’s stupid.”
  6. “I don’t get off work, so who cares?”
  7. “I have an irrational fear of glitter and anything pink.”

All of these reasons are very understandable, with the possible exception of #7. But honestly, I don’t think any of these are enough reason to hate the holiday. What’s the harm in another specified day to think about your relationships with others? Sure, you may need to spend a little money, but hey, what’s wrong with showing love through gifts? As a single man, I can definitely understand #2 and #3, but as a future boyfriend and husband, this is something I think I can appreciate more with time. I see no issue with the celebration of relationships and care for another person. Besides, even if you’re not married to/dating someone now, aren’t there still people you do love if not in that manner? What about your siblings, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins or grandparents? Everyone has SOMEONE to love.

Now, one argument I’ve definitely heard a lot is, “I don’t need to buy flowers/candy/gifts for my wife/girlfriend on a specific day to show her I love her! I can do that anytime!” But I have two responses: 1) Do you?, and 2) Think about Christmas and it’s meaning. Do we refuse to acknowledge our Savior’s birth on that day because we can do that anytime? No, we acknowledge this by voluntary actions of putting up Christmas trees, giving gifts and decorating our homes. Sure, we could do these anytime, but what’s wrong with a specific day to do it? (Actually, I’ve heard of some people who leave their Christmas trees up all year for this very reason, but for the sake of argument, the vast majority of people do not.) One is not restricted to celebrating Christ’s birthday on ONE day (besides, he probably wasn’t born on December 25th anyway), but we do anyway for the sake of continuity and unity. Isn’t it more fun to celebrate events like this together? This brings together a sense of unity and brotherhood. With the holiday of Valentine’s Day set in stone in the calendar, it’s a day we can all celebrate one thing together. Sure, you can buy flowers for your significant other any other time of the year, but why should prevent you from doing so on a specific day? Hallmark isn’t MAKING you do anything. It’s a voluntary action for sure, but why NOT do it? This same logic can be applied to Father’s Day and Mother’s Day; I’ve never heard someone say, “Why do we have to honor our parents on THOSE days? Couldn’t we do that anytime??” You can, but what’s wrong with a set-apart day to acknowledge them?

If nothing else, Valentine’s Day has candy involved, and to be frank, what’s NOT to like about getting candy?

I don’t want to come off as a know-it-all, especially never being in a relationship ever, but no matter how I look at it, I see no reason to hate Valentine’s Day or not celebrate it in some form. In the end, its one’s decision to observe the holiday how they wish, but as for me, I look forward to the cards and candy I give and receive every year, and I’ll look forward to celebrating the 14th of February with a significant other in the future. 😀